Groom's Questions Answered
This one’s for the boys - because whether or not you realise it, you’ve got some decisions to make, and some planning to do! We’ve compiled a handy list of common questions asked by grooms-to-be.
HOW DO I CHOOSE A SUIT?
It’s all about tailoring - because no matter your suit choice, it needs to fit right! The best way to figure out what suit to go for is - talk to the experts (this includes your bride). If you’re purchasing a suit, talk to the shop and get it perfectly tailored.
In terms of colour, discuss as a couple the colour scheme, and how the choice of bridesmaids’ dresses will work with the suit choices. You may wish to have all-matching suits, or you might prefer an eclectic mix. Blue suits are incredibly popular at the moment - and for good reason, especially in summer weddings, where it doesn’t get as roasting hot as the traditional black suit! You can mix and match patterns, or stick with a slick one-colour suit. Go polkadot, floral, all black - there are so many options.
It’s not just the suit itself to consider - think as well about all the details, like shoes, ties, pocket squares, watches, waistcoats, buttonholes. Get creative and choose an outfit that feels like you.
WHAT IF I CAN’T REMEMBER HOW TO TIE A TIE?
This question usually pops up last minute on the day, but thankfully, the internet exists, filled with a plethora of quality YouTube tie tutorials (see here). Or - go for a bowtie instead!
WHO SHOULD I CHOOSE AS GROOMSMEN?
This can sometimes be a tricky situation to navigate. For some, this decision will be a no-brainer - your best mate of 20 years and your older brother have been lined up for groomsman duties since the day you decided to propose. For others, this can be a point of contention. How do you narrow the selection down to your chosen number of 3?
The most important thing here is - it’s up to you. Don’t feel guilty about making your selection - it’s about who you want standing next to you during the ceremony, and who you want supporting you throughout the day. Start by making a shortlist. Who would handle the planning and organising responsibilities best? Who can’t you live without?
You might have seven standing up there with you, or you might opt for no bridal party at all. You might want your dad up there with you. You’re also not limited to just the boys - although it’s traditional to have an all-male set of groomsmen, it’s your day! If you have a female best friend, a sister or a cousin you want on team groom, we say go for it and select them for your crew. We’ve seen some great ways to dress the groom’s side together regardless of gender - why not try slick black dresses to compliment the suits!
SHOULD I GET MY FUTURE SPOUSE A GIFT ON THE DAY?
Weddings aren’t cheap - and you shouldn’t feel pressured to buy a gift to give your soon-to-be-wife on the morning of. That being said, a card with some words of love and encouragement is a great way to show your affection on the day. Have a chat about whether you’re expecting a gift from the other - communication is the easiest way to avoid high expectations or disappointment when it comes to gift giving!
WHAT IF I HATE HAVING MY PHOTO TAKEN?
Being the centre of attention isn’t for everyone, and some people feel uncomfortable in front of the camera. This is where it pays to book a professional photographer - not only can they create beautiful and creative images that capture the atmosphere of the day, and of the love between you, but they are also experts in making you feel comfortable in front of the camera. If they’re there with you while you get ready, you can get some great shots of you and the boys having a laugh and helping each other out, which can help you to feel comfortable around a photographer before the formalities start. They’ll give you direction and ensure your best side is coming out in the photos - so don’t stress if you don’t know what you’re meant to be doing while they’re snapping away.
DO I HAVE TO GIVE A SPEECH?
Traditionally, the groom will do a speech on the day - but again, have a chat as a couple and figure out who you want to do speeches. There are no rules! A speech is a great opportunity to thank everyone for coming and give special mentions to those who’ve helped you out immensely in preparing for the wedding - especially as sometimes, you’re so busy on the day you may not have had the chance to greet everyone! Traditionally brides didn’t give speeches, but times have since changed! At the end of the day, it’s up to you.
This post was brought to you by our wonderful blogger in chief, Deanna Walker.